Nussbaum Mind. Stories today. Skills for life.

The Drumming Before the Door

Chapter 1The visitor

"He's here!" says Mendy.

He runs to the window, then to the door, then back to the window.

His cousin Sruly is coming for the afternoon. Sruly lives far away. Mendy hasn't seen him since the winter, when they made a snow rabbit with one ear much bigger than the other.

Today they can build a rabbit out of blocks. Or a whole rabbit house. Mendy has put the best blocks in a basket.

Outside, a car parks.

Mendy's heart goes boom-boom-boom.

His feet bounce against the floor. His fingers feel fizzy. He takes a big breath, but it catches halfway.

Then he steps away from the door.

"Mommy," he whispers, "I think I don't want him to come."

Chapter 2The wrong name

Mommy turns from the table. Her blue tichel covers all her hair.

"What makes you think that?"

Mendy puts a hand on his chest.

"The fast thumping. Like when I hear a strange noise at night."

Mommy looks through the window. Tatty is greeting Sruly and Uncle Berel beside the car. Nobody is waiting alone outside.

"Is something about the visit worrying you?" she asks.

Mendy tries to find something. Sruly isn't mean. He doesn't break Mendy's things. Last time, he shared the long red sled without anybody asking.

"Maybe the blocks," Mendy says.

"What about them?"

"Maybe... I don't know."

Now he is worried. He has a worried body, so there must be a worried thing somewhere. He looks for it as hard as he looks for a missing mitten.

At the door, Sruly laughs at something Tatty says.

Mendy wants to see what is funny.

He also wants to stay where he is until the thumping stops.

Chapter 3Two kinds of running

Mommy pulls a chair closer. "Sit with me for a moment. We can look at what's happening."

Mendy sits on the edge.

"When you run in the yard, does your heart thump?"

"Yes."

"Do you always want to stop playing then?"

"No."

Mendy taps his toes. Outside, Sruly is taking his bag from the car.

"This morning, what did you want to happen?" Mommy asks.

"I wanted him to come. I wanted him to see the blocks. I still want to show him the little wheel that fits underneath."

The words tumble out fast.

Mommy smiles. "I hear a lot of wanting."

"But my heart!"

"A fast heart can come with being excited too. We don't have to call every thump the same thing."

Mendy listens to his chest. He can't tell it to change its noise just because Mommy gives him another name for it.

"What if I'm a little worried and excited?"

"You can tell me both. We can go slowly."

Chapter 4Not a test

Mendy wants to ask whether he is definitely excited. Definitely feels like a nice word to have.

Then he hears Sruly knock.

Mommy gets up. "Would you like to open the door with me, or have me open it?"

"With you."

He holds her hand with his fizzy fingers.

Sruly stands beside Tatty, carrying a flat paper bag.

"I brought something," Sruly says.

He pulls out two paper rabbit ears. One is long. One is very short.

Mendy laughs so suddenly that he forgets to listen for the thumping.

"The snow rabbit!"

"I thought he needed a summer house."

They carry the ears to the block basket. Mendy sits down, then stands up again to fetch the wheel.

"You're bouncing," Sruly says.

"I know."

Mendy doesn't tell Sruly that bouncing means the visit is wrong.

He shows him the wheel instead.

Chapter 5The quieter afternoon

For a while they build without talking. Sruly makes a wide doorway. Mendy makes a ramp for the rabbit's little wagon.

Later, they sit at the kitchen table for the snack their parents prepare.

Mendy notices that his feet are still.

He is glad Sruly came. He is also hungry. The block rabbit is waiting in a house without a roof because neither boy wants to build one yet.

"The thumping got smaller," he tells Mommy while she puts out the plates.

"How is the visit?"

"Good. It isn't running-fast good now. It's sitting-here good."

After snack, Sruly wants to look at Mendy's picture books. Mendy almost brings the whole shelf.

Then he chooses the rabbit book and one other.

They have an afternoon, not a race to use every minute.

When Uncle Berel says it is time to go, Mendy wishes the afternoon could be longer. That feeling has a different name again.

He doesn't try to turn it into the wrong visit.

He walks to the door with Sruly and asks whether the paper ears can stay.

What happens first?

Number these story moments in order. Look back at the story if you need to.

Mendy and Sruly make a summer house for the rabbit.
Mendy tells Mommy that his fast heartbeat makes him think he doesn't want the visit.
Mendy puts blocks in a basket for his cousin's visit.
Mendy and Sruly look at books after snack.
Mendy opens the door with Mommy.

More than one clue

Mendy's feet are bouncing. His heart is fast. Which words fit what he can do next? Circle all that fit. A body clue is something to notice. It doesn't tell the whole story by itself.

"Something must be wrong with the visit."
"I can tell Mommy what I notice and what I want."
"I must know the perfect name for my feeling before I open the door."
"I can want the visit and feel a little worried too."
"I can ask to open the door with Mommy."

A path to the greeting

Choose useful steps and draw arrows between their boxes. More than one route may fit; do not choose every box automatically.

Start
Mendy hears his cousin at the door.
Tell Mommy: "I'm bouncing, and I want to see Sruly."
Ask Mommy to open the door while you stand beside her.
Ask Mommy to open it, then join them when you are ready.
Wait until Mommy can promise your heart will never thump again.
Keep looking for a reason the whole visit must be wrong.
Show Sruly the block basket.
Finish
You choose a way to join a visit you want, with support if you need it.

Feet, fingers, feelings

Add bouncing feet, fizzy fingers and fast heartbeat to the outline. Finish the bubbles for Mendy. You may draw. Do not make the clues happen in your body. Tell a caring grown-up about pain, unusual sensations or worries.

I notice...
I want...

Same clue, different moment

Match moments with possible wants. More than one answer can fit. Draw links or write letters.

1. Waiting for a wanted cousin visit. 2. Finishing a running game in the yard. 3. Hearing an unfamiliar sound at night.

A. Have a grown-up help check the sound. B. Say hello and start playing. C. Rest after running. D. Ask for company while deciding what to do next.

What else would you ask before guessing a feeling name?

Words to keep

I can tell a grown-up.
More than one feeling can fit.
What do I want?
I can go with help.
A clue isn't the whole story.
Quiet fun counts too.

Pick one message for Mendy at the door. Pick another for Mendy looking at books. Tell someone why you choose them.

The rabbit's summer house

Draw and color a block house for the paper rabbit. Give it one long ear and one short ear, like the story's rabbit. Leave space beside the house for two cousins looking at books. Add one speech bubble telling what they like about the afternoon.

Your scene, labels and captions

Find the story words

Find the six words. All go left to right. Mark each one, then choose a word and tell where it belongs in the story.

DOORAMST
RHELPCAN
BLOCKRIV
SVISITPE
FEELNABR
TBOOKDES
CARDWIND
PLAYSOFT
DOORHELPBLOCKVISITFEELBOOK

Parent notes and answers

Keep this pack curious rather than turning the child's body into a guessing test. Three questions: What does Mendy want before Sruly arrives? What else can a fast heartbeat go with in an ordinary moment? Which choice lets Mendy join with support?

One tool: Ask "What do you notice, and what do you want?" Offer company or a small choice about the next step. Do not force excitement as the answer or dismiss an unexplained physical symptom. This story is not a medical guide.

1. Listed order: 4, 2, 1, 5, 3.

2. B, D, E. A makes a conclusion from one clue; C requires certainty before acting.

3. The first three boxes offer supported ways to begin, and the last box is a possible next action. No requirement to use every box. The two certainty/wrongness boxes do not add useful information. Asking for more support remains allowed.

4. Heart/chest, fingers/hands, feet. Speech bubbles vary; don't mark a child's own feeling guess wrong.

5. Suggested matches: 1-B or D; 2-C; 3-A or D. Ask about context, wants or something that actually worries the child. No forced one-to-one scoring.

6. Open responses.

7. Open responses.

8. DOOR row 1 columns 1-4; HELP row 2 columns 2-5; BLOCK row 3 columns 1-5; VISIT row 4 columns 2-6; FEEL row 5 columns 1-4; BOOK row 6 columns 2-5.

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